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Monday, 30 August 2010 |
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Well, I've made it through the roughest bit so far since Cheryl's death - dealing with all the legal stuff. I have been surprised by the amount of money one has to pay out before ever getting a penny from the life insurance - almost 22 grand! I was told the credit card companies will 'forgive' the debt on the cards of the deceased if you send them a copy of the death certificate, but alas, that is not true. Instead of simply sending me a letter telling me to pay the credit card debt, they sent them to collection agencies. So those are paid off. But what a bunch of blood-thirsty money-hungry @#$@ they are! Well, otherwise, everything is taken care of or in the process of being finished up, thankfully. I start back in school tomorrow. That'll be nice - getting back on a 'regular' schedule. I have just this semester to finish to get me Fitness Professional certificate, then it's the national certs - ACSM and ACE. I'm looking forward to school, seems odd to say such a thing. |
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Wednesday, 04 August 2010 |
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I have been in Washington state for a week and a half now. We had a grave side service and a memorial service last saturday. The grave side service was difficult for me. David, Austin and I placed Cheryl in the inurnment vault. The memorial service was very nice. It wasn't easy of course, but there were well over one hundred people there. Since then I am driving around the state visiting relatives that couldn't make it to the services. The next few weeks coming are going to be challenging dealing with the aftermath of Cheryl's passing, but I will get through it. I have some close friends and find support in them. I'll be looking for a widow/widower support group as well. It's easy to say I am strong enough to get through this, I don't need anyone's help, I'll be alright. But I know the support will be immensely valuable in my ability to get on with life in a 'normal' fashion once again. As much as i like driving around the country, visiting relatives, I look forward to getting back home. I already miss the warmth of the southern AZ sunshine. Western WA was cold, cloudy on most days I was there. Here in eastern WA it's pleasant enough, but still.... |
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Cheryl suffered a massive stroke, |
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Wednesday, 21 July 2010 |
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On July13th, in the later afternoon while she was resting, Cheryl suffered a massice stroke in the cerebellum part of her brain. We kept her on life support, a ventilator, for a couple days until all the family members could arrive from out of state to see her and say their last goodbyes. Friday the 16th in the afternoon we had a time of prayer with the hospital chaplain and turned off the machine. Cheryl never suffered any pain or agony or suffering. Her sister Debbie has been with me for over a week now as we have been very busy dealing with all the details that have to be dealt with after a death of a spouse. I do not know how I could every have made it through this very difficult time with her help and support. I am very much appreciative of Debbie taking this time to be with me. It has been very difficult, to say the least. We will be having a service for Cheryl at the Northlake Christian Church in Bothell, WA (across from the Purdy & Walters Floral Hills cemetary). The service will be held on Saturday the 24th at 3pm. It is an open service. Cheryl will be laid to rest with her parents and across from our daughter, Amy, at Floral Hills cemetary. |
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